Stop washing every day. It's bad for hair in general. The more you wash it the more oil your head will create. Just wash at least every other day if not more than one day in between washes. It may take a while for your head to balance out though. And there is no need to put any sort of balm in your hair unless your trying to make it stick in a certain shape. If your doing that you may want to wash it out everyday. But in general all the "stuff" people put on their hair isnt good. People had long hair way before hair products were developed. There's no need to add anything. Before I had dreads I think I maybe used a product once every 3 to 4 years. And that was for something like weddings or something where I was trying to keep a large amount of hair in place for an updo and photos.